It’s a fact of life that arguments happen. We argue with our parents as kids, our friends as teenagers and our partners as we grow older. Then, if we have kids, we argue with them as well! Of course we do- differences of opinions happen. Bad moods can happen at the same time, and as a result, things escalate in a way that they wouldn’t usually.
Perhaps you’ve had an argument with your boss where he or she was in the wrong, or reacted or behaved incorrectly. In this case, a different reaction is needed- you may wish to speak to you HR department.
But what if the argument was your fault? Or what if you reacted badly yourself, and said and did things you now regret? How can you patch things up again?
Read on for some suggestions.
Emotions and tempers can flare in arguments, even in the workplace. If you acted unprofessionally, now is the time to rectify that. Call your best friend for a rant, have a cry in the toilets, go out for lunch- whatever you need to calm down. However, once this is passed, gather your thoughts and head back to the office or workplace. Hiding won’t help anything, nor will being in denial. Get back to work and be professional.
You may be ready to apologise later in the day, or it might take you a day or to. Or it could be that you don’t cross paths again for a while, perhaps because of meetings or the weekend. But don’t leave it too long. Doing so will give the impression that you don’t plan to apologize, and this could cause further issues or tensions. When it comes to the apology, be straight to the point and humble. There is no need to grovel. A straight but sincere apology is enough. Also, reassure them that you plan to work hard and that it won’t happen again.
As the weeks pass, things will start to get back on an even keel. Arguments and the emotions attached to them fade, and so does the memory.
It could well be the case that they themselves are feeling regretful about your argument. If they have been making a huge effort to put things right again, show them that you have noticed this. A very professional and mature thing to do is to send a thank you letter to boss. You can touch upon the argument if you wish, but make the focus about your appreciate. This will get you back in their good books and also demonstrate that you respect them.
Get your head down
From the time of the argument onwards, get your head down and focus on work. This is not the time for turning up late or other poor behavior. Be sure you meet deadlines and aim to meet targets wherever possible. This shows your boss that you are focusing once again. Show your boss that you are an asset, and not a liability, and you and your career will reap the rewards.